What are you communicating?
What do you think you are talking about? Roy and I used to get frustrated when our communication would end up in miscommunication. We often were bewildered when we would try and work out what had gone wrong. We frequently got our wires crossed and got 'static' on the...
Just Hitched? Establishing Healthy Family Boundaries
For the most part many couples don’t understand the importance of establishing healthy family boundaries when they first get married, and parents don’t practice it well either. Son’s are still tied to their mother’s apron strings and daughter’s remain “daddy’s little...
Do You Have a Snake in Your Garden?
Our Garden We opened the front door of our home to be greeted by a snake. It isn't something we commonly see although we were aware we had a snake in the garden. It was surprising that it was there, right in front of us making its presence known. The snake then...
Hypersensitivity Disorder
Getting Help A few years ago I experienced something I had never encountered before. I started breaking out in a rash all over my body, the rash intensified and very quickly I was struggling to cope with the symptoms. My husband immediately told me in no uncertain...
Removing the Grey in Marriage
Hair Dye In preparation for the beginning of a new term, I had the satisfaction of checking off a number of items on the list. Accomplishment is a great feeling especially when you have to jump through the hoops of doing all of the usual things but in a different...
Loved or Used?
Being married doesn't eliminate the feeling of being used that we can sometimes experience. We are particularly sensitive to the motive of our spouse but can be prone to misread those intentions especially if we have been hurt in the past. Recently on facebook I came...
10 Things I Appreciate About You
Appreciate Sometimes it takes a special occasion like a birthday or an anniversary to remind you to appreciate each other. I woke up this morning with a deep sense of appreciation that I am married to such a wonderful man. I appreciate so many things about him but...
Running out of steam
Depleted Energy Running out of steam means to suddenly lose the energy or interest to continue doing what you are doing. The big question that races through our minds is "Why bother"? This is true of the expat who is tired of fighting against bureaucracy or the...
The Get Out of Jail Free Card
Secure By Design! I don't know many people who would enthusiastically embrace an unstable relationship. Most people don't want to go through life with a feeling of insecurity and yet many don't feel safe in their marriage. Ironically that's when a lot of people feel...
Is Your Marriage Hot or Cold?
Is your marriage hot or cold? We have had on-going heating problems for quite a while. As the temperature began to fall we found it was increasingly difficult to cope. It turned out that not only did we need our heating fixed but we needed a serious upgrade. How many...