I love my wife Lainey more than words could ever describe. To me, she is the most important thing on His earth. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing” springs to mind. What we have in our relationship between us is so precious: that connection, the understanding, the mutual support and encouragement, the companionship and of course the love and passion.

Our marriage, our life together, is so important that I should be careful to never neglect this relationship. To do so would disable me so drastically, the emotional harm I would cause for myself or for Lainey would result in us limiting our potential to do the thing we are called to do.

Yet every day I do neglect the precious gift that God has given me, and I do this just because of some fleeting selfish desire to do my own thing. I understand that preferring myself over my Lainey because of selfishness (especially when presented with an opportunity to bless her) is damaging to our marriage relationship. However, it is something that is done.

We all do it, we all can recognize these times and feel ashamed of the way we willingly sabotage our relationship. Our enemy would have us crippled with remorse for the way we neglect each other. The better thing, however, is to repent and ask God to help us to love our spouse as he loves us and to continue on in His strength loving our wives fiercely.

It does me good to remember to prefer my wife more than myself!

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
(Ephesians 5:28 NIV)


Invest in your marriage.

Happily ever after doesn’t have to be limited to fairytales. Simply invest in your marriage and learn the tools and principles needed beat the statistics.

The Bible holds many principles, tools and techniques that will bless your marriage. Overcoming selfishness is one of the keys to a happy successful Christian marriage.

Bringing Worlds Together Book

Many couples struggle to get on the same page in marriage. Whether you are newlyweds or have been married for years Bringing Worlds Together will help you blend together. Expect to learn more about your spouse, gain insight and be challenged.

Are you ready to move closer rather than drift apart?

Available in print and ebook formats.

Adjusting Expectations Book

No-one enters marriage expectation free. Adjusting Expectations helps identify how expectations were formed and whether or not they were realistic. Most expectations need some adjustment; they are often too high but can also be set too low. The good news is expectations can be reset!

Find out what you should expect and what God expects from you.

Available in print and ebook formats.

Improving Communication Book

Most couples would willingly admit that their communication could do with some improvement; although many people also point the finger of blame squarely at their spouse for communication failures. Whether you believe it’s your fault, their fault or that you’re both to blame, this book is for you! There is always room for improvement.

Available in print and ebook formats.

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