- Take responsibility for the lack of romance in your relationship. It’s all too easy to blame your spouse if you feel that romance has died, or was never there in the first place. If you want romance in your relationship, then take responsibility for it and work towards it.
- Stop expecting romantic things to happen automatically. As much as we would all like ‘instant romance’ in our relationships that isn’t a realistic expectation. Romance takes work, effort and thoughtfulness; it is also worth it!
- Take time to think about what a romantic event looks like in your relationship. Don’t automatically start going down the excuse train of thought. An honest assessment of where you are at allows you to take the next tangible step towards a healthier relationship. Now ask yourself:
- What would your spouse expect?
- What can you realistically do?
- Plan ahead! It takes a lot of time to pull together all the elements that will make your romantic event successful.
- Get the most out of all the effort you went to by guarding your emotions.
- Avoid spoiling the moment with a grumpy attitude or sharp or inconsiderate words.
Need help understanding romance? Then do some research on the internet but avoid being pulled in by commercialism. This book, hitchedtogether.com/adjusting-expectations, will help with perspective.
