Is your marriage hot or cold? We have had on-going heating problems for quite a while. As the temperature began to fall we found it was increasingly difficult to cope. It turned out that not only did we need our heating fixed but we needed a serious upgrade.
How many couples find that their love grows cold over time? When our heating wasn’t working it was physically very difficult to get through the normal things we had to do every day. Everything was much more difficult. I found I was getting quite self-centred as I would sit with my blanket wrapped protectively around me.
You can do the same thing emotionally when something goes wrong in your relationship. The protective blanket comes out and you start to focus on yourself and your own needs rather than the needs of others. When you find yourself in that position don’t just allow yourself to become colder and colder, do something!
Get your heating system fixed.
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Check you are plugged in. You need to maintain your relationship with God. If our relationship with God grows cold it impacts all other relationships.
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Check for leaks. Are there areas in your life that are causing damage to your relationship? It may be that you are not investing enough time in each other.
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Get an upgrade. Perhaps you need to boost your relationship by upgrading your communication. Consider reading a book on marriage together or going on a course or weekend retreat. Whatever it is, you need to learn how to put heat back in your relationship or raise the temperature!
Now we are in a warm cosy home with the heating working well. It is amazing how different our emotional environment has become as a result. I trust you will experience the same thing in your home as a result of God bringing the heat back into your marriage.
Matthew 24:12-13
And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. But he who endures to the end shall be saved.
