
Getting Help
A few years ago I experienced something I had never encountered before. I started breaking out in a rash all over my body, the rash intensified and very quickly I was struggling to cope with the symptoms. My husband immediately told me in no uncertain terms that he was taking me to the hospital. I really don’t like hospitals so it wouldn’t have been something I was comfortable within the UK, never mind dealing with it in Hungary.
Identifying the Triggers
I managed to navigate Triage in Hungarian and was seen by a doctor incredibly quickly. I was treated for hypersensitivity disorder or in plain terms an allergic reaction. A few months on I discovered what the triggers were and knew what to avoid. I never wanted to go through that pain again and so I had plenty of motivation for steering clear of the wrong foods. Ironically though it was my body that was at fault, not the foods, there are just some things it fought when it shouldn’t. I’m relieved that a number of years on my body has finally learned not to go into attack mode and I no longer have the reactions that used to cause me so much discomfort.
In Marriage
In marriage, there are many things that trigger ‘hypersensitivity disorder’. There are topics which in our minds should be taboo because we don’t like talking about that or dealing with it. So what is the cure in marriage?
The fact is that some subjects will always be uncomfortable to discuss but steering clear of them may just cause you more long term pain. Dealing with issues in an open and healthy way enables you to clear the air and create a healthy relationship. Don’t be hypersensitive when your spouse suggests that something you are doing needs to change.
Changing Your Reactions
Proverbs 14:1
“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down”.
When we react negatively we can cause destruction through our words, attitudes and actions. Instead of reacting take note of what your spouse is saying and make the adjustments that are necessary for your marriage to work.
John 13:34-35
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”