Some footprints fade over time while others leave a lasting impression. Be careful how you tread!

Luke 13:13

And he laid his hands on her, and immediately she was made straight, and she glorified God.

Luke 13:10-17

It’s not too difficult to get ‘bent out of shape’ in an argument with your spouse but what does that really mean? Back in the summertime,  I broke my little toe; it was just one of those stupid accidents. I walked past something without paying much attention to where my feet were moving and caught my toe on a piece of furniture. The pain immediately got my attention as I looked down at my blackening toe I knew I had broken it. Thinking that I knew best, I didn’t go to the doctors. I decided that in most cases broken toes get strapped, but not much else is done to fix them, so there was no point in going. I couldn’t have been more wrong!

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Over the summer the toe went through the rainbow of colours which is usual with bruising. I was walking fairly well, and it was easy enough to slip my feet in and out of the summer sandals. I didn’t realise how ‘bent out of shape’ my toe was until I needed to get back into my usual footwear then I discovered it quickly! My toe had a little bump on the side which was just at the wrong angle and rubbed against the side of my shoe. It was also extremely painful to put my boots on. It was then I decided that a trip to the doctors might be advisable. He confirmed that I had broken my toe and that it had ‘healed’ badly.

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Healing Isn’t Healing if it Heals Out of Joint!

My toe being bent out of shape means that I can’t walk in the normal way. I can’t do life the same way as I used to. I have to avoid doing anything which rubs the toe the wrong way. Isn’t it similar in relationships? If you have been bent out of shape, you can’t go on with the relationship in the normal way. You avoid issues that could cause tension and stress, but it leaves those issues unresolved.

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Take Responsibility for your Healing

I haven’t been able to wear a lot of my shoes since the accident; it’s not just that my shoes are uncomfortable many are painful. Being ‘bent out of shape’ often means being unable to relate correctly to those around you. I could easily blame my shoes; they’re too tight or too high or too ill-fitting, but the bottom line is it’s my pain that is causing the problem. It’s my responsibility to do what I can to get healed.

It’s too easy to think a solution is simply to buy different shoes. When you are bent out of shape you might think a good solution is to change your spouse, after all in your mind they are the problem! It’s important to resolve the issues and get healed otherwise the problem comes with you.

Jesus didn’t leave the woman who was ‘bent out of shape’ to suffer. He healed her! You might think that it is next to impossible to see your relationship healed. Don’t be discouraged, bring it to Jesus.

  • Are you bent out of shape with your spouse?
  • What steps have you taken to get healing?
  • Have you forgiven your spouse?


Bringing Worlds Together Book

Many couples struggle to get on the same page in marriage. Whether you are newlyweds or have been married for years Bringing Worlds Together will help you blend together. Expect to learn more about your spouse, gain insight and be challenged.

Are you ready to move closer rather than drift apart?

Available in print and ebook formats.

Adjusting Expectations Book

No-one enters marriage expectation free. Adjusting Expectations helps identify how expectations were formed and whether or not they were realistic. Most expectations need some adjustment; they are often too high but can also be set too low. The good news is expectations can be reset!

Find out what you should expect and what God expects from you.

Available in print and ebook formats.

Improving Communication Book

Most couples would willingly admit that their communication could do with some improvement; although many people also point the finger of blame squarely at their spouse for communication failures. Whether you believe it’s your fault, their fault or that you’re both to blame, this book is for you! There is always room for improvement.

Available in print and ebook formats.

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