Appreciate
Sometimes it takes a special occasion like a birthday or an anniversary to remind you to appreciate each other. I woke up this morning with a deep sense of appreciation that I am married to such a wonderful man. I appreciate so many things about him but that wasn’t always the case.
Stop Grumbling
Every morning I would grumble and complain that Roy seemed incapable of picking his underwear and socks off the floor where he had dropped them. I focused on his problem rather than realising I had a problem of my own. For years I had been stuck in the cycle of complaining. I even prayed that Roy would change and that it would dawn on him how to find the wash basket.
Change Bad Habits
One morning, mid-complaint, God interrupted my rant with the shocking revelation that I was wrong. That I should learn to appreciate my husband rather than complain about him. I broke the old habit of complaint by exchanging it with thankfulness. Roy gave me an opportunity every morning as I picked up his underwear (yet again) to thank God for him. I started to pray for him and bless his day. I soon discovered that I was no longer angry and frustrated but I was genuinely thankful.
Continue to Make the Effort
Nearly 3 decades on Roy doesn’t always leave his underwear on the floor, I don’t always remember to be appreciative but we do have a strong marriage because we allowed God to work on both our attitudes.
So here is my appreciation list:
Roy I appreciate:
- waking up in the morning and knowing that I have a faithful man by my side.
- that you take the time to pray with me about the day ahead.
- the way you look at me lovingly.
- the cup of coffee you bring me in bed.
- your protectiveness.
- your sense of humour and the way you laugh at your own jokes.
- your thoughtfulness.
- the jobs you do to keep everything running smoothly.
- the way you still go shopping with me even though you hate shopping.
- that you never comment on my wrinkles but always make me feel like I did when we first started dating.
Make a list of what you appreciate!
